Frankly between husband and wife must learn the secret techniques

We have seen many movies, husband and wife own one party that the other party and hide, or lie to themselves, suddenly heartbroken. So, in the end between husband and wife should not be a secret? What secrets can do to be honest with the spouse?

 
Marriage counselor pointed out: Some secrets are purely personal or preference, can not say, such as earning some extra money, do not necessarily have to report to the spouse. But if something might influence their lives, and that the other party the right to know, if there is no pay off the debt, chronic diseases, suffered in the past or emotional problems, and is currently facing some important decisions, such as layoffs, etc. communication between husband and wife are the topics should be careful. If you are not honest with these secrets, once the accidental exposure, may cause the marriage is facing a double blow: first re-exposure is the truth, the impact on each other; The second is to let each other have this sense of betrayal and mistrust .

 
Frankly secret be tricky, if handled badly, it could "好心办坏事." 4 summarizes the marriage experts note:

 
First, do not engage in a surprise attack. Can make an appointment first, and each other, such as "I have some important things to tell you that taking the time to talk to you tonight?"
Next, select the "leak" of the occasion. Best to find a safe, neutral places, such as study or quiet park, it is best not to have children even if it is the presence of a third party.

 
Again, make apology for. The correct attitude should be up first say "sorry" and then emphasized that "these things very early on I told you, but I have been ashamed to do that, I hope you can forgive me."

 
Finally, frankly do not have to reveal too many details. Otherwise, leave the partner is not easy to clear my mind images of each other's feelings than good.