Living together before marriage is not easy being married

Living together before marriage is a drill, the marriage of the "ugly face" in front of early exposure to lovers. Qicheng American couples in premarital cohabitation experience; in China, this phenomenon has become increasingly common. But the University of Denver professor Jia Lilan. Rhodes completed a study showed that people living together before marriage, especially those not engaged, marriage, more unfortunate.

 
Telephone survey of 1,000 people aged 18-34 years more than married men and women, some of whom have been married for 10 years. Survey, more than 40% of the respondents did not live together before marriage experience, 16% of people living together after the first engagement, and another 43% of people love to move in together soon after. The results show that living together is not engaged to, his marriage, the lowest satisfaction, the highest rate of negative emotions occur, and the number of times the idea of moving up through a divorce, and 19% of the proposed divorce; and this proportion after the engagement 12% of those living together, living together before marriage is not among those only 10%.

 
Jiali Lan. Rhodes explained: "This study is to tell people to find marriage by cohabitation problems are self-deception, it will only bring more trouble to the marriage. Because there is no restriction of cohabitation, in many cases The following is a casual, irresponsible, and even many people living together for many years, will break up. "

 
Of the Chinese People's University Institute of Social Sciences Professor Pan Suiming pointed out that reform and opening up, Chinese people have premarital sex or cohabitation is also increasing. People are more concerned about is: This is what their life in the future will have what effect. "To understand this, we in the" Chinese people's sex life "series of reports, specifically selected those 40 years of age, married in 5 years (inclusive) of adults within."

 
"Chinese people's sex life" report, the couple had sex before registration (including cohabitation), and that her husband's marriage in the future will take advantage. This was reflected in the following two aspects: his wife more than her husband love each other; the two sides more easily jealous. On the surface, seems to prove that the two women in the marriage would be at a low position. But Pan Suiming analysis, which related to the traditional concept of chastity.

 
"No matter how the two sides was voluntarily, and how passion, her heart is still not consciously consider themselves 'Shizhen' of. A result, she had married to 'cover themselves': more love with her husband to prove he is still 'innocent' , with a more jealous to prove their determination to 'single-mindedness'. "In addition, the exclusion of age, marriage age, urban-rural divide, the pre-marital sex couples have their quality of life after marriage, than no sex before marriage are high.

 
American sociologist Leo. Thrall believes that with the indifference of the city. Whether a person is lonely, lonely, not that there is no one around him, mainly because there is no human being, emotional exchanges. Thus, many cities often immersed in the lonely, lonely, bored among the couples in love is no exception. In order to eliminate these feelings, they simply organize a "quasi-family."

 
"While we do not have to because of the existence of this phenomenon cheer, do not turn in order to maintain morality and ignore the facts. The reason is simple: do not swim into the water will not learn. This is another kind of freedom in exchange for freedom. "Pan Suiming said.