Study said more lonely extrovert

6 most likely alone
Chen, 31, gold is a book editor, normally friends all over the world can be when it comes to loneliness, her feeling a lot: "Once my heart especially depression, find someone to back down grievances, but the phone turned in the phone book again, but did not find one! "to find this friend right, 隔行如隔山, it did not explain the circumstances surrounding the patient; to find that friend now, people have to spend time on the toilet all day, I am sorry to give trouble; to find counterparts it, although a common language, but we usually are specified in the exchange of secretly competition, fear of other people's jokes became; look of it, but only the working relationship between the manuscript dealing, there is no obligation when her emotional garbage; looking for the parents it, fear of old people worry too much ... ... "obviously stood the beach, but also watched their thirst, which is lonely." eyes full of helpless Chen pieces.

 
Chen gold with different foreign companies working in the Sun Pa Jimo admits that he is a man who came home every day the first thing is to turn on the TV, even if the wife and kids are not at home, but also make house lights full on. A call on the bus to do everything possible to pass the time, nothing to pull a few buddies from work a little small drinking wine, come home and have support as long as the mahjong tables, anyway, how had bustling. "No way, one retired and sit, and my heart to Huangde powerful. Even so, sometimes friends are in the heap, I suddenly felt what no means, alone this thing, are not immune to hide."

 
"Even if there are partners, people are still lonely." In an interview with "Life Times" reporter, EQ Management Specialist, Georgia Institute of Technology PhD in psychology, Zhang Yijun said. Although similar reasons alone, but lonely people tend to prefer the six:

 
Women. Women are more emotional, focusing on interpersonal relationships of the psychological satisfaction, coupled with their ability to express strong emotions, but also more willing to express their loneliness, it is "lonely virus" in the susceptible population and the best communicator.

 
Leadership. The so-called "saints are lonely since ancient times," often have different way to explore the success of ordinary people, and to a peak Shiyou highbrow, which is a cognitive, ideological realm of the lonely. "Maintain a certain distance between the upper and lower levels, is to ensure that established the authority of the leadership, reflecting the attitude of respect for the premise of lower-level", Harvard University, Doctor of Psychology, Applied Social Studies, City University of Hong Kong Associate Professor Xiaodong Yue said.

 
Self-centered person. This over-concerned about their own people, it is difficult to get from the social psychological satisfaction, and lack of social skills, easy to be isolated.
Inner world is not rich people, for example, some Neet, full-time classes to know what to do about his wife and the workaholic. On the contrary, experiments show that there is a strong man of faith is not easy alone.

 
Lack of family accompany the person. As empty-nesters and the child have more time alone, so often experience external, behavioral alone.
Outgoing. Research shows that people are more eager to fresh outward, the need for external stimuli to achieve the excited state. If the lack of external stimuli, will fall into boredom, loneliness being.

 
Lonely and sad and beverages
In modern society, why are alone it will go hand in hand? "Excessive pursuit of material, to help people ignore their own psychological needs, figuratively speaking, that is, had wanted to walk the dog, the result was a dog stroll." Summed up with a joke of which the most important reason. On the one hand, people are more and more drums purse on the spiritual life (especially relationships) are also willing to invest. For example, people buy a car be happy to come and go freely, but keep a car, car washing, parking is the problem, life is much to contain the original freedom and happiness lost. On the other hand, our time is becoming more valuable, the interaction between people also will be more practical, and before a group of people get together to talk about vague ideal for a night, now if you find a whim one meal, others old suspect you also ask him to help pave the way for ... ... used to think that the more money the more happy, but more and more alienated a result, everyone in this gap under the lonely nature of the warning lights blinking . In addition, the seventies and eighties of last century, people are "social" in the cottage, family member courtyard, the neighborhood, enjoyable, and modern society, reinforced concrete mind of hard but people become vulnerable to exchange fewer, the soul has become lost.

 
Because of this, a great deal of loneliness "destructive." Studies show that lonely people who blood pressure higher than the socially active 30 units, the possibility of heart disease and stroke is 3 times higher, the probability of dying from heart disease and stroke to 2 times normal; lonely people tend to dye the bad habits, because it would undermine people's willpower and determination, easy to give up the sport, tend to consume more fat and sugar, tobacco and alcohol; alone the lack of flexibility in the brain, sleep well, so the faster aging; loneliness may increase the secretion of stress hormone cortisol, thus weakening the immune system; to produce more long-term isolation called "corticosterone" stress hormones also increase the risk of cancer.

 
Worst of all, loneliness overreaction resulting harm is not only sinful but also: University of Chicago psychologist Kathy Warburton pointed out that a lonely, may be more difficult to trust others, but always like a dead end, to others finding fault children and friends will be less and less. Many people in modern society is composed of a "network", if the key chain in one of these people, because of "lonely" problems caused by severed contacts with other people, may lead to a wider range of "relationship break "so lonely was the spread geometrically.

 
Make the best of friends "vaccine"
Make friends is the most important anti-loneliness "vaccine." Research indicates that a new friend, feel lonely in a week's time by 0.04 days, one year less two days. Leaves that, when we deal with them are often locked so that the old rules: find matched or even slightly better social status, and find willing to go through anything, generous, and looking away from too close, common side ... ... in fact, help you overcome loneliness were not actually give you much benefit, but you need not worry about who contacts with him to pay more, and interest in working together will become increasingly high.

 
The favorite things (at least the same) as the cause of to do. Xiaodong Yue said that a person becomes happy, my friends also followed the odds to become happy by 25%. In other words, fun is contagious. Leaves suggested that the weekend or spare time to participate in a community of interest, such as the original was on a regular basis with a gang of know each other, "ALICE" (Friends of the trip) trips together, it was the primary classes to participate in dance, some people go round as a child piano dream ... ...

 
Try to be alone for 15 minutes. Some might say, I have done these, but I will always feel lonely why do it? In this regard, three experts have said the most fundamental way to fight alone, or to learn to take alone. "Some people lonely as a cloud of unleavened dough, always want to throw away, no one thought to add new points, will be able to make it a live patient and wait a minute noodles." Pair said. Specifically: turn off the windows and doors, mobile phones, computers, televisions, lights, sit down, ask yourself, How was your day, what new ideas, what are the unhappy things, which may be caused by what, what things need change and so on.

 
Finally, a psychology professor at the University of Chicago, said Cacioppo suggested, and sometimes loneliness is very simple, just live in groups, raising a pet, keep small objects, or some childhood faith. Among them, the herd is very important and people should be more exchanges, such as stopping by to neighbors, take part in district activities, childhood toys, pets and the spirit is able to fill the vacancy.